Ep 11 – Ethics and Protocol in BDSM

Today we talk about ethics and protocols in the BDSM lifestyle and how they apply in the world around us.  GoddessManda joins us for this one as a lifestyle educator and Domme.

  • Protocol in Public
  • Protocol in Private
  • What are Ethics
  • Ethics and the world around us
  • How do we define protocols for ourselves

Reference link used for show notes:

https://slexi.wordpress.com/2012/03/04/protocol-and-behaviour-with-in-ds-relationships/

Links –

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Ep 10 – Lets talk Bondage

Our Guests on the show today are Illiana and Wild Dracos

  • Bondage is the practice of consensually tying, binding, or restraining a partner for erotic, aesthetic, or somatosensory stimulation. Rope, cuffs, bondage tape, self-adhering bandage, or other physical restraints may be used for this purpose.
  • Shibari is a whole entire subject on it’s own.
  • Safety is a huge factor in all forms of bondage. The top must be prepared for emergencies and have a plan to release the bottom quickly.
  • The bottom should prepare themselves both mentally and physically.
  • Historical
    • Bondage is also presented in erotic and mainstream literary forms, including cartoons and magazines, and depicted in erotic art, such as some of the works of Gustave Doré and John Everett Millais. The mythical Andromeda was a popular subject for bondage in art by painters including Rembrandt’s Andromeda Chained to the Rocks (1630), Théodore Chassériau (1840), Edward Poynter (1869) and Gustave Doré (1869).
    • A popular motif in the days of silent film and into the 1930’s were “damsels in distress” with the actress often bound on railroad tracks or in other forms.
    • Depictions of bondage in art may be erotic, in which case they follow a heteronormative model and tend to depict a young woman in danger and fear. Bizarre was a fetish and bondage magazine published between 1946–1959 by bondage artist John Willie. It included drawings and photographs using professional bondage models in bondage or sadomasochistic scenes. Sweet Gwendoline was the main female character in his works, published largely in the 1950s and 60’s, and possibly the most famous bondage icon after Bettie Page.
    • Bondage in mainstream media became more and more normalized (if depicted on the lighter bondage side).
    • By the 1990s, references to bondage could be found in mainstream prime-time television series such as Buffy the Vampire Slayer, where equipment such as handcuffs or collars and concepts such as the safeword were included as a matter of course

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Ep 9 – Discussing Public and Private Play

Discussing Public and Private Play:

  • Often paperwork required such as a release for the facility
  • Some venues require vetting
  • They help dispel the myth that kink is for the wealthy (Christian Grey Syndrome)
  • Meeting a diversity of people and their play styles
  • Can often be a learning environment
  • Dungeon Masters (DM)

It is important to know the rules of the venue!!

Don’t take pictures of anyone or anything without permission (again, most play parties and nearly all public dungeons ban any kind of photography). Don’t violate other people’s privacy.

“People who are outed risk losing their professional and social status; access to their children; and, in extreme cases, going to prison for having engaged in consensual adult activities in private. This raises significant civil liberties issues regarding the right to a private life, as guaranteed by law,” says Myles Jackman, an incisive, eloquent barrister who frequently advises Backlash, a campaigning group which fights for the right to freedom of sexual expression.

https://www.xojane.com/sex/what-to-expect-bdsm-event-party

https://www.kinkly.com/2/9145/sex-tips/bdsm/everything-you-need-to-know-about-your-first-bdsm-play-party

http://www.slate.com/blogs/outward/2014/10/28/the_jian_ghomeshi_case_echoes_many_kinksters_worst_fears_being_outed_and.html

https://www.newstatesman.com/lifestyle/2014/08/allure-closet-kink-only-sexy-when-it-underground

Show Links –

Email – ascensionshow@club-ascension.com

Email on Fetlife.com – ReverendTodd , -Tbone-, NrthnRebl

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Ep 8 – Highlights the difference in Abuse and BDSM

Highlighting the main differences between BDSM and Abuse
• From the outside the line can appear to be fuzzy
• Consent is the cornerstone of BDSM. Abuse is where no consent is given.
• We discuss highlights of abusive relationships:
• Red flags of abuse in BDSM or otherwise:
• The giving of a safeword is not a substitute for setting limits and negotiation beforehand.
o See here: www.dailydot.com/irl/kink-bdsm-consent-problem/
• In BDSM consent should be just the starting point. Negotiation must follow.
• Discuss how the kink community must get better at policing our own.
Reference Links:
www.psychologytoday.com/blog/unique-e…mental-health
www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/a…of-grey/385267/
www.graydancer.com/shibarico/

Show Links:
Email – ascensionshow@club-ascension.com
Email on Fetlife.com – ReverendTodd , -Tbone-, NrthnRebl

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Ep 7 – Slut Shaming and Sexual Harassment

We are talking about Slut Shaming and Sexual Harassment with ReverendTodd, -Tbone- and NrthnRebl.  This is a problem within all walks of life.  It doesn’t matter if your in Kink, Swing, Poly, LGBT, Vanilla or anything in between.  We touch on it in various forms.  Have any questions or comments about the show?  Please email us and let us know!

Email – ascensionshow@club-ascension.com

Email on Fetlife.com – ReverendTodd, -Tbone-, NrthnRebl

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Reference from the Show notes:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/unique-everybody-else/201307/bdsm-personality-and-mental-health

https://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2015/02/consent-isnt-enough-in-fifty-shades-of-grey/385267/

http://www.graydancer.com/shibarico/

Ep 6 – 7 Types of Non-Monogamous Relationships

ReverendTodd, NrthnRebl and -Tbone- are talking about various non-monogamous relationship types. In a comedic and opinionated fashion between the three of us.
Email – ascensionshow@club-ascension.com Email on Fetlife.com – ReverendTodd , -Tbone-, NrthnRebl
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Ep 5 – Dom/sub drop and After Care

-Tbone-, ReverendTodd and NrthnRebl delve into Dom/sub drop and aftercare. Maybe you have heard of it, maybe you haven’t. We try to help bring some understanding of what happens when we play in the Kink lifestyle.
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Ep 4 – New to the Lifestyle

We talk about the fears and anxiety of being new.  The best ways to get involved in the lifestyle safely.  Trying to help you make the first steps in the Kink world and save you from some headaches.

Want to submit ideas for the show? Have topic ideas or maybe you just want to reach out to one of us on the show.  Feel free to shoot us email – ascensionshow@club-ascension.com or on Fetlife.com – ReverendTodd , -Tbone-, NrthnRebl

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Ep 3 – Daddy Mommy Doms and Littles Dynamics

NrthnRebl joins with -Tbone- and ReverendTodd in hosting the show.  Special guest miseriacantare of fetlife.  We delve into the Dom/Little dynamics and talk with Wild_Draco’s a Daddy Dom on fetlife.  One of Club Ascension’s very own staff.

– What is a little
– What is the dynamic
– Is it wrong

and so much more… Tune it and check it out!

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Ep 2 – Mental Health and the BDSM Lifestyle

Our guest panel was Jess Elaine and Magdalena Knight joined by our special guest – Dale “Butch” Ross. Dale is the Author of “Stopping the Madness” his online book for men’s issues (including leather) can be found on Amazon, get your copy today! With his Kink Aware therapy practice in Southfield, Mi.

The discussion taps into the mental health of people who are involved in alternative lifestyles.  How the DSM 5 has changed its view on the kink lifestyle and so much more!

Links in the Show:

Our Patreon Page for support – www.patreon.com/clubascension

Cleveland Leather Awareness Weekend (Claw) – www.CLAWInfo.org

Pride Source from the publishers of “Between the lines newspaper” can be found at – www.pridesource.com

Club Ascension in the Detroit Metro area – club-ascension.com

The National Coalition of Sexual Freedom (NCSF) – www.ncsfreedom.org

Articles published by Dale Ross –
www.50plusprime.com/author/dale-ross/

Arizona Gay Leather website www.GayNFlagstaff.com (click on ‘newsletter’ then each month)